Haircuts and Boxes

I have been laughing at myself the past few weeks... well actually my hair.

Those of you who know me are aware I've been known to take things "into my own hands"  and that does include scissors!

I started looking at new haircuts a while back and was loving some of the really cute, short, choppy cuts.  I  love seeing sharp angles in hair and cool dimensions with colors.  As cute as these hairstyles looked online and even though I loved the cut, I knew I wouldn't love it on me.  Been there done that... several times :)

I started checking out some of the asymmetrical looks which I have worn at times in the past few years in a longer version.  So after a few days of looking at these pics I found myself  standing in my bathroom with scissors in my hand cutting away.

The reason I've found myself laughing is when I look at my hair, I see me. Let me explain. Well maybe I should explain my haircut... well maybe I should just show you a pic...

My life has always been full of contrasts...

Part of me wants to run carefree, laugh loudly, surrounded by friends and family.  The other part longs for my quiet space, alone with my books, journals, and thoughts.

So I've spent a lot of time trying to hide those contrasts and attempting to fit into neat little boxes of groups I would see around me.

I think a big  problem for me was I felt like I needed to make sense to everyone around me.   I felt like I was always trying to fit my life into the box someone else built for me.  I also noticed the more I tried to ignore who I was and tried to do what was expected of me I got "funky".   By that I mean I was irritable, frustrated and miserable!

As hard as I would try, it never worked.

It didn't work because I wasn't created to be in a box and neither were you!

I want to encourage you today to take an honest look at your life.  Are you miserable?  Feeling like a victim? Frustrated with what you think others expect? Maybe, just maybe my friend you've been spending your time trying to fit into places you weren't created to fit. I love how Psalm 139 (Message version) reads: Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;     you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!     Body and soul, I am marvelously made!     I worship in adoration—what a creation! You know me inside and out,     you know every bone in my body; You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,     how I was sculpted from nothing into something. Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;     all the stages of my life were spread out before you, The days of my life all prepared     before I’d even lived one day. So go ahead... climb on out of that box. Now STAND on top of that box and be YOU!  


  • Betty

    I have to admit that I have, at times been tempted to pick up the scissors and give myself a new look, but have not ever been brave enough to do it. I love your new look. Nothing you could do with your hair would change your sweet face. I always loved it when my beautician/friend, Tennie Bishop would call me and tell me she found a great cut that she thought would look good on me. I enjoyed letting her work her “magic”. I miss her. But I NEVER would be brave enough to cut it myself.
    As I get older I realize that what you see on the outside is no where near as important as the “real” person on the inside. I want to be the person on the inside that my amazing Creator designed for me and pray that the person on the outside makes HIM proud of me. I often fall short of HIS expectations, but I know that HE won’t ever let me go or give up on me. Still learning how to be the best ME that I can be.

  • Susan

    Thanks Peggy! Love you!!

  • Susan

    Thanks Eva! Love your answer to people! :)

  • Peggy

    That’s excellent, Susan! And hey, I love the hair, but I love you MORE!

  • Eva Arnold

    First of all let me say I love your new haircut it becomes you. :) I can relate to trying to live up to other peoples expectations, but I have learned that I am who I am and God create me the way I am so when people try to change me I tell them to take it up with God because he is the one who made me this way. LOL

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