Many of us have experiences of past relationships that ended and we find ourselves remembering only the things we miss about the relationship. 

I remember doing this so many times after breaking up with someone because for whatever reason knew the relationship didn’t need to go any further and felt good about the decision and yet days and weeks later I found myself romanticizing what was and only remembering the things I enjoyed or what worked in the relationship and ignoring all of the reasons I ended things in the first place.

Now I’m not wanting to imply that everything in the past that has ended needs to be framed as it’s over and gone and wasn’t a great experience in your life. I’m just wanting us to be honest when looking back that even though you are grieving a loss there were most likely parts that you knew weren’t part of your future and didn’t love then but now that it’s gone you aren’t remembering that.

There have been several times where I have tried to unpack this issue and I honestly feel like I have gotten a lot better in the last several years about letting go of things…

But I’ve gotta tell ya…I bought the Marie Kondo book and I read it and I really struggle with the, ‘only keep it if it brings you joy concept.’ Because as I’m going through “all the things” and evaluate each item one by one. I feel joy rising up hahaha and it just all ends back up in the “to keep” pile.

And I’ve heard it said if EVERYTHING is important or special then nothing is. Struggle with one too haha

But seriously…I was thinking about this again as we are transitioning out of winter into spring and the idea of spring cleaning.

I started looking deeper into why it means so much to hold to a piece of paper or picture and 2 things came up for me…

One being control and 2 scarcity.